July 17 @ 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm

500Kr

Motherhood lives in the nervous system

Name: Motherhood lives in the nervous system
Start: 2026-07-17T18:00:00+00:00
End: 2026-07-17T21:00:00+00:00

July 17 @ 6:00 pm – 9:00 pm

The Motherhole hosts this gathering. It has three realms: Eros, Mother and Crone.

This is a Mother gathering.

Mother is not motherhood as an identity.

It is not a lifestyle.

It is not a soft aesthetic.

Mother is what happens when your body becomes a home for someone else.

When your nervous system becomes a service provider.

When your time stops belonging to you.

Mother is love, yes.

But it is also depletion.

Rage.

Grief.

Isolation.

And the quiet terror of never fully coming back.

Theme of the gathering

There is a specific kind of exhaustion that doesn’t come from doing too much.

It comes from being needed all the time.

From carrying the logistics.

The emotional weather.

The planning.

The remembering.

The anticipating.

From being the one who knows what everyone needs before they need it.

From being the human calendar.

The human pillow.

The human emergency exit.

And then being told you should be grateful.

This gathering is for women who love their children, but feel themselves disappearing inside the role.

For women who are functioning, but not living.

For women who are tired of being the infrastructure of everyone else’s life.

We don’t gather to become better mothers.

We gather to tell the truth.

What we will do

This is a structured, guided gathering. The focus is articulation.

We are holding a shared space where you can name what motherhood has actually demanded of you.

Not the beautiful parts.

Not the acceptable parts.

The real cost.

You will write in response to precise prompts.

You will reflect before speaking but you will not be speaking your thoughts, you’ll be voicing those from another in the group. How? Come and find out! All you need to know is that it works, it’s very liberating and feels extremely safe, we promise!

You do not need to be positive.

You do not need to be “strong.”

You do not need to make it sound meaningful.

You are allowed to be honest without being judged.

The focus of the evening

We explore parts of motherhood that are rarely spoken about directly:

• the exhaustion that sleep cannot fix

• the invisible work no one counts

• the resentment that comes from being taken for granted

• the loss of erotic space and personal time

• the emotional labour of holding everyone together

• the grief of the woman you used to be

• the fear that this is just your life now

This is not about parenting strategies.

It is about reality.

Many women carry enormous pressure in silence because they don’t want to sound ungrateful.

This gathering offers a way to name what is true, without collapsing into shame.

The Motherhole

The Motherhole.
The first gate.
The original opening.

The Motherhole is the place where life arrives, where identity fractures, where something that was once yours becomes a passage for others.
And then, one day, becomes yours again.

The Motherhole gatherings are not events. They are encounters.
Spaces where women come to speak from inside what actually happened, and what is happening now.

Not to be fixed.
Not to be guided.
Not to be improved.
But to be heard.

Each Motherhole gathering follows a shared method.

Not because one method fits all, but because experience needs holding in order to move.

We work with words, bodies, breath, and sound.
Sometimes with silence.
Sometimes with meditation.
Sometimes through writing.
Sometimes through reading and voicing.
Sometimes through movement or stillness.
Not everything happens every time.

But always a shared speaking at the end.

Nothing is forced.
You can speak.
You can stay quiet.
You can pass.
Listening counts.
The structure holds the room so experience can move, without being explained, fixed, or turned into a performance.

The Motherhole has three realms

Eros
The realm of desire.
Of appetite.
Of what still wants you.
Sex. Rage. Hunger. Refusal.
The pull toward life that never went quiet.
Enter Eros if something in you is awake and restless.

Mother
The realm of cost.
Of responsibility.
Of what life required of you.
Birth. Care. Loss of self.
The moment you became a passage.
Enter Mother if your life split in two and never fully rejoined.

Crone

The realm of ownership.
Of what you no longer give away.
No more passage for life.
No more explanation.
Menopause. Authority. Clarity.
The moment you stop bleeding and start leading yourself.

Practical details

• Date: Friday, March 13
• Time: Doors open at 17.30. Come early to land in the space, eat before we begin. Gathering starts at 18:00
• Length: 3 hours
• Group size: Maximum 12 participants
• Location: Sensual Institute, Tavastgatan 43, 118 24 Stockholm
• Price: 500 SEK
• Snacks and drinks included