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The Motherhole · Crone · Free · 15 minutes

Available by Choice

Someone asks another favour. You hear “You’re so good at this”, and before you’ve checked your time or energy the work seems to be yours. You want to be generous, but you’re tired of being treated as permanently available.

Available by Choice gives you sentences for the moment before a request becomes a commitment. Practise buying time, declining clearly and changing an agreement without losing sight of the responsibilities you already have.

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For the person everyone counts on

For anyone whose automatic answer is “of course”, “any time” or “it’s fine”, even when it isn’t. Perhaps family, friends or colleagues assume you’ll always fit one more thing in. This course is for making your availability a choice in everyday situations where it feels safe to set a limit.

What you'll learn and practise

  • Notice the phrase you reach for before checking what you can actually offer.
  • Practise three usable answers: asking for time, saying no and renegotiating something you previously agreed to.
  • Offer a smaller alternative only when you truly want and have capacity to provide it.
  • Repeat a limit when asked again, follow through on your words and take safety into account if refusal brings pressure or threats.

You’ll choose two short sentences that sound like you and practise one in a low-stakes situation.

Twelve short written lessons combine practical examples, a small practice and optional saved reflections. Move at your own pace and return whenever you need to.

How to begin

Add the free course at checkout. Sign in or create your account and complete the 0 kr order. You can then access the course through your account. Your progress is saved. Written responses are optional and are not displayed to other learners. You can use a personal notebook if you prefer.

The Motherhole

The Motherhole hosts women-only circles at Sensual Institute in Stockholm. These gatherings are for women who want to speak openly about desire, care, ageing and the experiences that rarely have room in everyday conversation. We write, listen and sometimes work with breath, sound or movement. You can share or simply listen. The circles explore three realms: Eros, Mother and Crone. You can find upcoming dates and tickets for these circles in the Sensual Institute events calendar.

Crone

Crone is the realm of ownership, changing bodies and the freedom to decide what you give your time to. Our women-only circles explore ageing, menopause, boundaries and the changes that come with them. There is room for uncertainty, anger, relief and pleasure, without having to put a positive spin on anything.